Ok folks. Time to get personal here. Since Joel has been gone, I have been a little sensitive to things that people say/think/do. So, in an effort to make some people aware of things that they may do that maybe aren't so nice, I have compiled a small list.
1. If the person you are talking to loves where they are from, don't proceed to tell them how much you hate said place. I happen to love Indianapolis (where I grew up) and was so excited that they put on such a good Superbowl weekend. They were voted one of the best Superbowl cities, and handled the event with class. So, if I tell you how much I love and miss my home state, do not tell me how much you hate it there, how stupid it is, etc. It is frankly a little rude.
2. Along the same lines, don't openly bash a friend's religion. I am Catholic. While I do not believe everything that the church teaches (or sometimes does), do not tell me that you think Catholics are perverted, that Mass (which I find much spiritual satisfaction in) is boring, or that we are trying to impose our beliefs on everyone (i.e. the birth control controversy). It is a fundamental right to practice our religion. While the church does not believe in birth control, I do. I am a birth control user, and believe that if it was God's will for me to get pregnant, then I would be. But, I believe that the church has the right to their beliefs, and so I support them in trying to fight for those rights. That does not make me small minded.
3. I understand that Joel isn't gone forever or getting shot at every day. But, that does not make this deployment easy on me. I am missing my best friend every single day that he is gone. I wake up alone, sleep alone, and eat dinner most nights alone. My loneliness does not go away because someone else has it worse. Someone else always has it worse. By you telling me how it could be worse does not help me. So please stop.
4. Not everything has to be a contest. If I say that I did something, you don't have to tell me how you did the same thing 100x better. I am proud of my accomplishments. I love when friends share stories, because it is great to be able to relate to someone, but you don't always have to be better than me. I promise I'll still be your friend if you are not better than me. But I might stop if you continue to tell me how awesome you are.
5. Also, what is up with being fake all of a sudden? Why tell me one thing, and then act in a completely different manner. Just be real with me.
6. What is up with entitlement? That's all I really have to say about that one. No one deserves anything that they didn't work for.
Whoo...I feel so much better! Any pet peeves that you are dying to share?